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…..an Audience of One

Has life become a series of auditions with no gratification or satisfaction or fulfillment? if we are honest with ourselves, we have all reached this place in life. It manifests in the form of burn-out, sell-out, cop-out, and shout it outs!!! Before long, without the tools to “bail out” the result can be devastating. In this reflection, let’s view our life together to process whether we are suppressed in a life of drama compelled by constant auditioning…. “No More Auditions”…..

An audition is a sample performance by an actor, singer, musician, dancer, or other performers. It typically involves the performer displaying their talent through a “previously memorized and rehearsed” solo piece or by performing a work or piece given to the performer at the audition or shortly before.

Relatively speaking, an audition is pretty much where you extract from within a performance with the hopes of becoming greater than where and who you are currently. The dictionary defines it as a “try-out” or “trial” for a particular role requiring practical demonstration of the candidate's suitability and skill. Every day, we are being “auditioned” for our best life but we are missing the key detail of that best life, and that is genuine “connection” which begins as an “interview”.

An interview is our catalyst to healthy relationships. The interview allows you to expose your “inner-view” of who you are and what you are capable of. When you are uncertain about “who you are” the interview can feel like an interrogation instead of gratification.

In the business of life, we have lost sight of genuine relay-tionships and the importance of the interview. An interview is literally an appointed time, set aside, for a specific purpose - to “connect” not just for the sake of getting validated but it's also a time for you to gain insight on if this is really in alignment with who you are and what you are purposed to do.

Too often in life, we spend a surmountable amount of time, auditioning with no connection to the people and communities that are authentically seeking our purpose and support. I want to encourage you today to really reflect on where you are pouring out your time, energy, and gifts and really make a decision whether you want to continue being auditioned or take time with individuals or a community who is willing to actively engage in your “inner-view”.

Here’s a strategy for identifying whether you are “being auditioned” in your relationships:

  1. Closed Casting Call - While every production has many casting sessions, these are considered 'closed' sessions, meaning the actors who are being seen have been invited to audition.  In your current relationship, are you never invited to be a part of “what really matters” to the other individual you are in a relationship with? On the other hand, do you find yourself “guarded” and will not allow anyone or yourself to be vulnerable in your personal relationship?

  2. There is a concept in a drama called "the fourth wall" which refers to the invisible wall separating the audience from the actors. In life, we call this “the third wheel” in groups yet still disconnected resulting in dramatic irony..

    Side Note: Dramatic Irony—When the audience or reader knows something that one or more of the characters doesn't. (in relationships, we call these “cliches”)

  3. Over compensating to force a Casting Call. Find yourself constantly on social media to draw attention to your wants/needs often feeling as if its just soliloquy (to hear yourself think -speak out loud ) when underneath the loneliness, you are just desiring genuine connection, perhaps dialogue and sometimes nothing more than a pure non-judgmental monologue.

The truth is Beautiful, your drama, performance, and years of rehearsal are not in vain! There is a happy ending called “Catharsis”.

In life, I have come to discover that many of us go through life performing based on ideas and thoughts instilled in us as children. Even as adults, we tend to constantly reflect on the memories and rehearse what would have, should have, or could have become “IF”….

I want to encourage you to work on the “solo piece” which is your heart in order that when the opportunity comes, the “interviewer” (soon-to-be husband, soon-to-be producer of your gig, soon-to-be life connection) will not see your performance but encounter your passion.

You are a Proverbs 32 Chic! Welcome to “The Next Chapter” of your Life!

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